The following is a personal essay that reflects the opinion of its author.
Too often, a parent with a quiet child who has attention problems will leave the doctor’s office feeling frustrated, ignored, dismissed, or misunderstood.
Did the doctor really understand our concerns? Was there any medical gaslighting?
Indeed, medicine still has blind spots about how ADHD is diagnosed and treated, and this is especially true for females and people from racial and ethnic minority groups. After more than 20 years of practicing child and adolescent psychiatry, I still find it helpful to pause and consider what might be influencing me to not get it right.
Maybe it’s because of my medical training. In the medical school classroom and on patient rounds, I was encouraged to think about a differential diagnosis, the full range of possibilities. On tests and in real-life practice, however, I was taught to identify key symptoms, move quickly toward a diagnosis, and begin treatment, often with medication.
The Flip Side of Efficiency
I was encouraged to recognize the “classic” ADHD patient: a hyper and inattentive young boy. But such diagnostic efficiency can lead me to miss the quiet child who is merely inattentive or to mislabel the deeper issue of trauma that might be causing the restlessness.
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Trauma, anxiety, depression, sleep problems, learning differences, and autism all have overlapping symptoms with ADHD. I often find elementary-age, adolescent, or young adult students feeling overwhelmed and suffering from anxiety and depression as well, which leads me to question which came first: the ADHD or the emotional struggles.
An adult who has spent years compensating for their ADHD may present as anxious or burned out. Of course, not every distracted or overwhelmed person has ADHD. Sometimes, what looks like ADHD is instead the result of chronic stress, language barriers, learning challenges, excessive screen use, or another condition that deserves a different response.
I’m also aware of how time and billing pressures influence my ability to feel confident in a diagnosis or treatment. In both busy primary care and mental health practices, clinicians are often expected to move quickly. An ADHD diagnosis usually requires a wider lens and more unbillable time to gather input from parents, teachers, partners, rating scales, developmental history, and examples from work, school, and home.
Stereotypes and bias also taint proper diagnoses. Girls and women are often overlooked because their ADHD may show up as disorganization, perfectionism, emotional exhaustion, or shame. Black, Latino, and other minority children are more likely to receive punishment instead of the support they need.
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This is also true for children learning in their second language. I often receive referrals for a child who can’t pay attention in school because they don’t understand the English language, not because they have ADHD. Unfortunately, stereotypes and bias affect even the best clinicians. Slowing down and considering all angles is especially important so as not to mislabel or mistreat patients in these circumstances.
We, clinicians, need to keep learning by investing in continuing education, practicing cultural awareness and humility, and being good listeners. Ultimately, the best ADHD care is collaborative, curious, and committed to a patient’s wellbeing.
Medical Gaslighting Prevention: Next Steps
- Free Download: How to Talk to Your Doctor About Medical Research
- Read: “Medical Gaslighting Convinced Me That I Didn’t Have ADHD”
- Read: A Clinicians’ Guide to Better Patient Communication
Luke Smith, M.D., is a psychiatrist and the director of El Futuro in Durham, North Carolina.